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The Lost Art of Constructive Conversations
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The Lost Art of Constructive Conversations

Inside Influence podcast



Editorial Rating

8

Qualities

  • Applicable
  • Engaging
  • Inspiring

Recommendation

Many people believe that disagreeing with someone means you’re starting on opposite sides and that eventually, maybe, you’ll meet in the middle. Perhaps you secretly hope that if you argue well enough, the other person will see your logic, change his or her mind, and apologize for being so shortsighted. This unrealistic, unhealthy goal doesn’t respect the other person’s opinions and experience. So how should we approach disagreement? Business strategist Julia Dhar and management and leadership consultant Julie Masters provide actionable tips in this episode of the Inside Influence podcast.

Take-Aways

  • Before engaging in a constructive conversation, learn to separate your identity from your ideas.
  • Try starting a difficult conversation by saying, “Would you mind if I described what I think we already agree on?”
  • Respectful listening is vital to effective debate. Ask, “What can you say to help me see what you see?”

About the Podcast

Julia Dhar is the  co-founder of BeSmart, the Boston Consulting Group’s behavioral economics initiative. Her TED Talks, “How to Disagree Productively and Find Common Ground” and “How to Have Constructive Conversations,” have received more than 10 million views. Julie Masters is a managment and leadership consultant. She hosts Inside Influence, a fortnightly podcast on speaking and influencing.