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How to Ask for Help
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How to Ask for Help

You’re not weak or lazy – everyone needs support. Follow these steps to learn when to reach out, who to go to and what to say

Psyche, 2022


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Humans evolved to cooperate and help one another. So why doesn’t asking for help come more naturally to a species that is wired for collaboration? Why does it feel so uncomfortable and embarrassing? Clinical psychologist Debbie Sorensen explores the tender practice of asking for help and gives practical advice for overcoming discomfort. Because ultimately, collaboration will get you much farther than independence.

Take-Aways

  • Asking for help is uncomfortable, but it’s a vital life skill. Acknowledge your discomfort, and ask for help anyway.
  • If you need assistance, consider who is best suited to help, when is the most convenient time to ask, and how to be direct and respectful.
  • If your appeal for help gets rejected, don’t take it personally. Move on and ask someone else.

About the Author

Clinical psychologist Debbie Sorensen, a co-host of the Psychologists Off the Clock podcast, co-wrote ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.


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