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The Anti-Networking Guide
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The Anti-Networking Guide

Sahil Bloom, 2024

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If the mere thought of networking with a room of strangers is enough to make you feel nauseated, blogger, entrepreneur and investor Sahil Bloom, a self-professed socially anxious introvert, has put together a brief, useful “anti-networking” guide to making connections. Happily, the realm of networking has evolved, and transactional schmoozing has given way to relationship building. If you are moving to a new area, starting a new job, or attending a networking event — or if you just want to make friends — Bloom’s guide will give you the confidence you need to connect with new people. 

Summary

Networking has evolved. It’s now more concerned with relationship building than schmoozing.

A Harvard study discovered that “relationship satisfaction” at age 50 is the factor that most accurately predicts a person’s physical health at age 80. Thus, enjoying a long, healthful life hinges on your ability to build relationships. But how can you instigate meaningful relationships? “Networking” has become a dirty word associated with amalgamating masses of shallow, transactional connections. Instead, take the “anti-networking” path to building authentic relationships. Anti-networking has four core principles: “find value-aligned rooms, ask engaging questions, become a level 2-3 listener, and use creative follow-ups.”

To build meaningful relationships, seek out places where you will rub shoulders with like-minded people.

To meet like-minded folks, visit places where you are most likely to encounter people who share your interests and values.

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About the Author

Investor, entrepreneur and blogger Sahil Bloom is the writer of The Curiosity Chronicle newsletter.