Psychologist Neil A. Fiore’s believes procrastination is an outdated habit used to protect yourself from fear of failure and self-criticism. Fiore offers examples, strategies and concrete exercises to help you escape the anxiety, unhappiness and alienation that result from procrastination. Learn why you procrastinate, how it serves you and how to start taking charge of your life and time.
The Procrastination Coping Mechanism
Procrastination works, temporarily, to protect people from self-criticism, shame and anxiety. That is, procrastination isn’t crazy; it’s just an ineffective way of coping with problems you create. Most procrastinators submit their work on time – but at great cost and loss of quality work. Chastising procrastinators never works; it merely reinforces the self-criticism at the root of the behavior. People use procrastination to cope with “low self-esteem, perfectionism, fear of failure and of success, indecisiveness, lack of work-play balance, ineffective goal-setting and “negative concepts about work and yourself.” They focus on what’s wrong with them instead of simply focusing on doing the task.
Fear of failure and of success arises from the presumption that your work is the core of your identity, so you feel any criticism as a criticism of you as a person. To eliminate the fear of failure, accept feedback about your work without seeing it as a judgment of your worth. Fear of success occurs when finishing a task leads only to higher expectations...
Neil A. Fiore, PhD, is a licensed psychologist and a management consultant to industrial, educational and health care organizations. He publishes extensively and speaks often on radio and television.
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