The Inside-Out Effect

The Problem

Your pursuit of happiness will find only futility if you go at it backward. People often chase happiness and fulfillment from the “outside-in”: They strive to reach a series of external goals, such as attaining certain jobs, possessions or relationships. But if these external goals don’t harmonize with your inner values, goals and passions, life becomes a conflict between your actions and your inner self. Your successes can then feel void of meaning.

To find fulfillment, pursue happiness from the “inside-out” – discover who you are at the most fundamental level and align your external goals, actions and relationships with your inner impulses. Then, you are “living your calling.” Your life will go more smoothly, because you’ve resolved the friction between your actions and your “core values.” Your work will be more meaningful and stimulating and you’ll have a genuine upbeat attitude in every area of your life.

To move closer toward living your calling, utilize the “Know-Be-Lead” formula. This toolbox of techniques and exercises will help you, first, to “know” who you are by identifying your “fundamental passions” and “deep-rooted personal purpose.” ...