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Just Listen

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Just Listen

Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone

AMACOM,

15 min. de leitura
10 Ideias Fundamentais
Áudio & Texto

Sobre o que é?

The Rolling Stones sang, “You can’t always get what you want.” But, you can get what you need if you use these tactics.

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8

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  • Applicable
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Recommendation

Being the life of the party won’t help you make a sale. In fact, letting other people take the spotlight will actually garner more admiration and eventual “buy-in,” explains psychiatrist Mark Goulston. This advice follows his axiom, “be more interested than interesting,” which is one of his nine principles for connecting with others. Goulston, who has trained police officers and US Federal Bureau of Investigation hostage negotiators, devotes a chapter each to 12 powerful techniques you can use to be more persuasive. His systems and strategies will help you cross the natural barriers people erect to protect themselves, so you can communicate your ideas and goals. He fleshes out each lesson with real-life examples and engaging stories. getAbstract thinks you’ll find this book quite helpful in refining ways to “get through” to others. If Goulston can negotiate with a desperate gunman, he surely can help you sway a customer – or even your teenager.

Summary

Persuasion at Gunpoint

A man is sitting in his car in a mall parking lot. He’s holding a shotgun. Mark Goulston, the police negotiator, knows this volatile situation has every chance of ending poorly. How can he reach this clearly desperate man?

The negotiator asks a question: “I bet you feel that nobody knows what it’s like to have tried everything else and be stuck with this as your only way out; isn’t that true?”

The man with the shotgun pauses and thinks before replying, “Yeah, you’re right, nobody knows and nobody gives a f#@&!” - As surprising as it may seem, this begins a dialogue.

The negotiator’s question resonated with the gunman, who answered by agreeing. This was the first step toward a peaceful resolution. Most people who want to persuade others push too hard. They use arguments, counterarguments, facts and figures to support their positions. Rather than convincing people, this tends to create resistance. Instead, try listening, empathizing and connecting with the people you are trying to sway. Logic alone won’t achieve your goal. You can “get through” to people only if you can persuade them to “buy into” your ideas. You need to ...

About the Author

Mark Goulston, author of Get Out of Your Own Way and Get Out of Your Own Way at Work, is a columnist, psychiatrist and business consultant.

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    D. P. 3 weeks ago
    El libro resalta la importancia de saber escuchar activamente a las personas para construir confianza, superar barreras y generar entendimiento mutuo; aprendiendo a abordar nuestras emociones y las emociones de las demas incluso en situaciones desafiantes lo que facilita canales de comunicación efectivos .
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    M. N. 1 month ago
    Importancia de saber escuchar
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    J. B. 4 months ago
    Se debe ser paciente, escuchar, y pensar que responder.